1. What is open adoption? At Cradle of Hope, birthmothers can choose the adoptive family for the baby and decide whether they would like contact with the baby and the adoptive family after the baby is born. Some birthmothers would like to see pictures of the baby and get letters from the adoptive family. Other women would like the chance to visit with the adoptive family and the baby. An adoptive placement where there is contact between the birthmother and the adopting family is called an open adoption. The counselors at Cradle of Hope can help you to decide what type of adoption is best for you and your child.
2. I’m not sure where to start. What do I do first? You’ve already started, by reading about adoption on the Internet. It’s important for you to learn about your options so that you can make the best possible decisions for you and your baby. A counselor at Cradle of Hope can provide you with support, counseling and information. If you decide that adoption is the best plan for you and your baby, we can help you through each step of the process. Call us at 301-587-4400 or 703-352-4806.
3. I don’t have any medical insurance. How will I pay my medical bills? We can assist you in getting the medical coverage you need. If you don’t qualify for medical insurance and you decide that adoption is the best choice for you and your baby, the medical bills for your pregnancy and your delivery will be covered by the adopting family.
4. Will I get to choose the adoptive family? Yes you can. We believe that you should be able to select the adoptive family for your baby. You can see profiles of prospective adoptive families who have already been approved to adopt. We do not pre-select families or limit the number of family profiles that you can view.
5. Do I have to pick the family? You aren’t required to select a family for the baby. Some women ask their counselor to select a family based on what they feel is important in a family. For instance, some women would like a family with a stay at home parent or with a certain religious background. Other women may want the adoptive family to share some of their hobbies and interests. If you’re not comfortable choosing the adoptive family, we can help. It’s up to you.
6. Will my baby go into foster care? No. Many women prefer that their baby goes directly home to their new family. We believe that baby should be placed directly with the adoptive parents that you have selected.
7. Can I stay in touch? Absolutely! You should consider what kind of contact you would like to have with the adoptive family after the baby is placed with them. You can exchange letters and photos, emails or even visit. A Cradle of Hope counselor can help you to find a family that looks forward to the continued contact that you prefer.
8. What if I don’t want to meet the adoptive family? You don’t have to. You can decide if you are comfortable meeting the adoptive family or not. For some women, meeting the adoptive family seems scary at first. That’s why is so important to know that your Cradle of Hope counselor will help you to decide what makes the most sense for you.
9. What do I have to do? You will need to provide information about your medical background for the baby, get prenatal care, and keep in touch with your Cradle of Hope counselor. Everything else in the adoption plan is flexible – you can decide if you would like to select the family, if you want to meet them before the baby is born, if you want to keep in touch after the baby is placed, and many other things. That’s why it’s important to connect with one of our counselors. She will help you through each decision and be there to support you.